To her, a big midday meal after church on Sunday was dinner. As a teenager, sitting at the table, I would ask, “So if this is dinner, what meal will we have later tonight?” Supper, came the answer. “Okay then, when was lunch?” We’re not having lunch today, we’re having dinner. “But if a guy calls and asks me out to dinner, he’s not gonna show up at noon. Right?” It won’t matter, said my brother, because your sorry butt won’t be out of bed by noon anyway! My parents chuckled. I gave him the stink eye.
After many debates like this, I finally nailed down the distinction that Mom was unconsciously making. Dinner is the largest, most rounded meal of the day, regardless of whether it happens at noon or in the evening. If dinner happens at noon, the evening meal is supper. If dinner happens in the evening, the noon meal is lunch. “The only thing that was served on Holy Thursday was bread and wine,” she once told me. “That’s why it wasn’t the Last Dinner. Not enough food groups!” I couldn’t come up with a retort that didn’t include blasphemy.
Right then, I found a dictionary and looked up “supper”: 1) the evening meal, especially when dinner is taken at midday; a light meal served late in the evening.
And then, of course, “dinner”: the principal meal of the day.
Dang, I hated when she was right!
And a principal meal it was. We ate well during the week, but dinner on Sundays was good eatin’ – definitely something not to be missed. Rested up from the week, Mom would crank out a meal fit for a king, and we loved it. Mom was a big believer in intentionally making enough to have leftovers, which made things easier during the coming week. This meant that the selection on the Sunday table was huge, and she always made sure that everyone had a few things available that they really liked.
Often, there would be more than one meat to choose from. A roast and fried chicken, for example. Or a baked chicken and a ham. On these occasions, Dad would raise his head from being bowed for the blessing, comment on how great everything looked, and wow, it’s even a two meat Sunday! Just like the old days, he and Mom would say.
They were referring to the Sunday dinners of my mother’s youth, because at Grandma’s house, every Sunday was a two meat Sunday.

My favorite photo of "the eleven". Mom is standing, second from the right. Denise is standing, center.
Mom was the sixth of nine children, you see, so even without any guests, Grandma was cooking for eleven people (!). But on Sundays, there were always guests. Grandma’s brother and his family, cousins from down the road, family in from out of town. Later, sons- and daughters-in-law entered the picture, and eventually, us grandkids. So basically, the largest home-cooked meal I’ve ever made was just a typical Sunday for Grandma. She could run circles around me. She could do what I consider to be a “production” with one hand tied behind her back and blindfolded.
This explains a lot, actually. It explains why my mom and her sisters thought nothing of creating a “production” in their kitchens, because to them, it was perfectly normal to crank out enough food for an army. Simple was boring and, actually, impractical. It explains why my mom always seems like she was rushing around in the kitchen, because Grandma was a flurry of activity. She never actually sat down with the family to eat, but instead busied herself refilling glasses, serving seconds, and prepping the dessert.
Once, as a small child, just having learned the concept of fairness, I felt that Grandma must be starving. Here she was serving us, while we all ate right in front of her! Pigs at a trough, we were! I walked into the kitchen, pulled on her apron, and told her she could have my seat. “Child, I’m just happy we’re all together,” she said. And then, crouching down, in a whisper, “I’ve been tasting the food all morning – I’m full as a tick!” She sent me back to table with a knowing glance.
Just this week, I asked my aunt what the two meats were all about. Why not just make a giant roast, or a huge batch of fried chicken? Ah, Grasshopper, you have much to learn. The family was full of hunters and fishermen, you see, so the first meat was usually fish, fowl, or game. The second meat was more ordinary fare, so as not to frighten the young children (and daughters-in-law). Ohhhhhhh. As a people-pleaser, that makes perfect sense. If I cook that much food, there better not be anyone turning up their nose at it.
Next question, Aunt Denise: if a normal Sunday dinner was a 2-3 dozen people requiring three tables (two it the dining room, one in the kitchen), was Easter Sunday any different? Not really, came the reply.
When you do it up right all the time, I suppose special occasion meals aren’t all that different. Which is kind of neat actually, because then the focus can be on the holiday. Which is as it should be. Right?
Regardless of how (or whether!) you celebrate, I hope your Easter is as special as a “two meat Sunday”.
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Mom taught me early in my “apprenticeship” that ham is the easiest way to feed a lot of people. In fact, there’s an old quote in the food world: “Eternity is two people and a ham.”
It’s easy because you’re basically just rewarming it to a specific temperature, and adding a glaze for flavor – definitely a no-fuss way to add a second meat to add to a meal. Plus, it’s incredibly versatile left over. Sandwiches, omelettes, quiche, risotto, chef salad – the list of ways to reinvent it goes on and on…
Another reason it’s easy is that it holds its temperature for so long. See the note at the end of the recipe.
Baked Ham with Honey-Brandy Glaze
Adapted from Thanksgiving (Williams-Sonoma)
1 fully cooked bone-in 18-pound smoked ham
3 cups water
1 cup brandy
1 cup unfiltered apple cider
¾ cup honey
Position a rack in the lower third of the oven and preheat to 325°F. Slice away the rind (if any) and most of the fat from the upper surface of the ham, leaving a layer of fat about ¼-inch thick. With a sharp knife, shallowly score the upper surface of the ham into a diamond pattern.
Place the ham on a rack in a shallow roasting pan just large enough to hold it comfortably. Add the water to the pan and place it in the oven. Bake for 2 ¼ hours.
Meanwhile, in a measuring pitcher, stir together the brandy, cider, and honey. At the 2 ¼-hour mark, pour off the water from the roasting pan. Baste the ham with about one-third of the brandy mixture and bake for 12 minutes. Continue to bake, basting the ham with the brandy mixture at 12-minute intervals, first from the pitcher and then from the roasting pan, until the ham is glazed and shiny, for another 35 minutes or so (for a total baking time of about 3 hours).
Let the ham rest on a cutting board for 15 minutes before carving. Serve hot or warm.
Make-Ahead Tip: Since the ham is as good warm as it is hot (and since it stays hot for eat least one hour after baking), don’t hesitate to let it rest, uncarved, while you use the oven for side dishes.
Makes 10 servings, plus ample leftovers.










