In August of 1999, Dad had an emergency quadruple bypass. One minute he was on a treadmill flunking a stress test, the next minute he was being admitted into the cardiac unit and prepped for surgery. We all learned a lot about ourselves and each other in the months that followed, but obviously no one was changed more by that experience than the patient himself. Dad has worked incredibly hard since then to follow every recommendation from his doctors, and my own heart beams with pride when I think of how well he looks after his.
Eight years later, in late June of 2007, Dad’s heart started having trouble again. We would eventually learn that one of his coronary arteries had re-blocked, and would require a stent to keep it open. I can’t remember why I was at my parents’ house – was it by chance or did they call me for help? – but I do remember realizing that Dad was having a prolonged mild heart attack and that it could escalate in a split second.
I’m usually pretty cool-headed in these types of situations, but I remember doing an incredibly poor job at masking my feelings of fear and concern and love and helplessness. My hands shook and my voice trembled as I helped them pack light overnight bags and load the car. We prayed the Rosary on the way, and I remember thanking God that I was able to drive them and we didn’t need an ambulance.
We are blessed to have a world-class medical center in Houston, where wonderful people magically re-opened his arteries, and we all breathed a sigh of relief. He would be in the Cardiac ICU for a couple of days, but his outlook was good.
But the night of July 2, everything changed. I got a call from Mom in the middle of the night, and she had just hung up with the hospital. The short version is that Dad had a near-fatal arrhythmia, in reaction to the stent procedure. Basically Dad’s heart freaked out, and it was beating so fast that the chambers didn’t have a chance to refill with blood between contractions. And because the heart wasn’t actually pumping anything, he lost blood pressure and his brain wasn’t getting oxygen. He almost instantly slipped into a coma and was fading fast, but he was lucky. He had the extremely good fortune of awakening with a doctor literally on top of him, pumping his chest and shouting his name.
His cardiologist told us later that this particular type of v-tach arrhythmia usually results in sudden death, and that if he hadn’t been in a cardiac ICU with a particularly adept crew that night, the outcome would have been much different. If he’d been at home, he would have almost certainly died.
That night, once everything had settled down, Mom slept in a chair in Dad’s room, just so they could be within arm’s reach. Kirk and I slept in the waiting room, or at least tried to. Every time I drifted off, I had a recurring nightmare of waking up to a brightly lit, fully functioning hospital, completely devoid of any people. In my dream, I wandered the halls, looking for any signs of a patient, a doctor, a nurse, anyone. Each time, I would jolt awake just as I was reaching for the doorknob to exit, with the dread of somehow knowing that I was locked in.
I don’t remember who slept where the next night, July 3rd, but I’m guessing that my parents insisted I take the night off because it was Matt’s birthday. But I’ll never forget the 4th of July that year.
Mom and Kirk headed home before dinner, and it was my turn to stay overnight with Dad. At this point he was still feeling weak, but much better, and was up for chatting. We turned on the TV and watched a parade or two, which got us talking about Dad’s Army days in Vietnam, during which he served as an engineer on a fuel tanker.
He started telling me specifics that I didn’t remember having heard before, about the loading docks near Saigon, and navigating up the Mekong River, and going to this and that bay of so-and-so. There was a computer in the corner of the room, and with the nurse’s permission, I turned the monitor so Dad could see it from his bed and pulled up a map of Vietnam. Before long, we were lost in conversation about the year and a half of his life he gave in service to our country.
It was a beautiful thing, just being able to talk to Dad this way after almost losing him. I kept thinking that if it weren’t for the lightning fast response of his medical team, I never would have heard these details about his Army job, or how he spent his leave sight-seeing in the Phillipines. We wouldn’t have struck up a conversation with his Filipino nurse that night about memories of her homeland in the 60s. And I wouldn’t have heard about Dad’s draft letter from President Nixon, which opened with “Greetings!”. (Greetings, indeed.)
We were engrossed in all these details when we heard a faint popping sound, and I saw Dad looking past me, out the window. I opened the blinds to a spectacular third-story view of the huge fireworks show at Eleanor Tinsley Park, which Dad and I watched as I stood by his bed, holding hands.
It was a perfect ending to a day full of blissful gratitude: I was thankful to God for my Dad, to Dad and every other soldier for their service, and to my country for our many freedoms.
God bless America!
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I asked Dad what home-cooked dish he missed most while away in Vietnam. “That’s easy,” he said. “Apple pie.”
I’m not sure if it was his favorite before he left for Vietnam, but as long as I’ve been alive, apple pie has been Dad’s favorite dessert. And what could be more perfect for the 4th?
Dad is a simple, cinnamon-only kinda guy, but you could sub a pinch of cloves and half a teaspoon grated nutmeg for half a teaspoon of the cinnamon, if you like. And these days, I make a heart-healthier version for him by replacing half of the sugar with Splenda and swapping the top crust for a crumb topping made with Smart Balance (instead of butter).
Dad’s Favorite Apple Pie
2 tablespoons all-purpose flour, plus more for dusting
2 pie crusts (homemade or store-bought)
12 medium or 7 large Granny Smith apples, peeled, cored, and sliced
¾ cup sugar, plus additional for pie top
Zest and juice of 1 lemon
2 teaspoons cinnamon
2 tablespoons unsalted butter
1 large egg, beaten
Preheat oven to 375ºF. On a lightly floured surface, roll out crusts into two 1/8-inch thick circles to a diameter slightly larger than that of an 11-inch pie plate. Press one pastry circle into the pie plate. Place the other circle on waxed paper, and cover with plastic wrap. Chill all pastry until firm, about 30 minutes.
In a large bowl, combine apples, sugar, lemon zest and juice, cinnamon, and flour. Toss well. Spoon apples into pie pan. Dot with butter, and cover with remaining pastry circle. Cut several steam vents across top. Seal by crimping edges as desired. Brush with beaten egg, and sprinkle with additional sugar.
Bake until crust is brown and juices are bubbling, about 1 hour. Let cool on wire rack before serving.
Serves 10 to 12.






